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Wake-Up Call Wednesday: The F Word

Wake-Up Call Wednesday: The F Word

Dear One,

Happy Summer Solstice to you darlin’! Today is a day that is all about shining bright and removing any lingering darkness. What is one of the top ways we perpetuate the darkness in our lives?

It’s by not utilizing the F Word:


Forgiveness is about release. It is an opportunity for you to experience peace. Remember, when you forgive, that does not mean you are condoning your own actions or those of another; it simply means you are ready to let go and move forward. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful gifts we can give others and ourselves.

One of the most inspiring stories of forgiveness comes from South Africa and the creation of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission, which allowed victims and perpetrators of the apartheid era to come together to tell their stories in order to create a path to forgiveness. In the words of Archbishop Desmond Tutu, chair of the commission:

“Instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose
to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and
reconciliation. . . .We were exhilarated as we heard people
who had suffered grievously, who by rights should have
been baying for the blood of their tormentors, utter words
of forgiveness, reveal an extraordinary willingness to work
for reconciliation, demonstrating magnanimity and nobility
of spirit. . . .Fundamentally, we are good; we are made
for love, for compassion, for caring, for sharing, for peace
and reconciliation, for transcendence, for the beautiful, for
the true and the good.”

We are all capable of forgiving.

I challenge you to take a forgiveness inventory:

• Is there anyone you need to forgive? Honestly assess whether or not you are ready to forgive. If not, ask yourself, “What needs to occur for me to be ready to forgive?” If possible, take action: perhaps you need to write a letter to let your true feelings out (even if this person is no longer living), or maybe you need to call the person and ask for an apology. Perhaps you need to adopt a new perspective about the situation that will allow space for forgiveness. “He was doing the best he could with the information he had” is one perspective that often helps my clients to forgive.

• Is there anything you need to forgive yourself for? Really look deep: perhaps you have been holding on to a mistake you made years ago. Make the decision to forgive yourself. Sometimes it’s helpful to write out your mistakes and burn the paper or to take a “forgiveness hike”in which you walk in nature to release your mistakes and forgive.

• Is there anyone you need forgiveness from? Allow this post to be a catalyst for you to seek that forgiveness. It is never too late to apologize.

Please feel free to spread the sunshine and share this article and leave a comment below. Let me know how you will use the F word…TODAY!



By | 2017-05-25T10:23:53+00:00 June 20th, 2012|Coaching|6 Comments

About the Author:

Amy Ahlers, The Wake-Up Call Coach, is on a mission to stop women and mamas from being so darn hard on themselves. She is the bestselling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves & Reform Your Inner Mean Girl and she's been a Certified Life Coach for over 16 years. Amy is the co-creator of transformational programs such as Inner Mean Girl Reform School, Find Your Calling & Visionary Ignition Switch. Amy is passionate about helping soulful mamas embrace the messiness and magic of motherhood in her truth telling community, You can often find Amy holding hands with the love of her life and husband, Rob, as they chase after their firecracker daughters, Annabella and Evie Rose. She resides in the San Francisco Bay Area with her family and rescue mutt, Batman.


  1. Donna Mogan June 20, 2012 at 3:09 pm

    No need to forgive if we never blame.

    • Amy Ahlers June 21, 2012 at 9:26 am

      so true…and I don’t know anyone who doesn’t step into blame every know and again. myself included!

  2. Michelle June 21, 2012 at 6:34 am

    While I agree with Donna, I do fall into blame and feeling guilty about hurting myself and others.

    Forgiveness is hard for me. I often come to it after I’ve had some time to think about and see the impact of my reactions.

    I am slowly learning to be gentle with myself and that’s helping me find more forgiveness for myself and others.

    • Amy Ahlers June 21, 2012 at 12:50 pm

      Oh sweet Michelle….love the image of us all being gentle with ourselves!

      Thank you!!

  3. Liz June 21, 2012 at 10:01 am

    When i came to understand that i am peace, love, and compassion, i learned that i was capable to let go of the blaming of others, and i learned to forgive; this has taken two years. I truly feel that by practicing forgiveness, i practice love, which is the essence of my new being, my new me after the end of a 20 year marriage; all is good, i celebrate and love my new me because i chose to forgive; i am grateful for all of it! 🙂

    • Amy Ahlers June 21, 2012 at 12:54 pm

      Absolutely STUNNING!!! Thank you for this beautiful contribution, Liz!

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