First, I want to say a huge THANK YOU for all the amazing comments, reach outs and love I received from my last video post: Three Tips for What to Do When It Feels Like Everything Just Sucks! (If you missed it, you can watch that video here.
I was so touched by your responses and just LOVE knowing that I’m not alone. AND I’m happy to report that I’m feeling so much better…
I just got back from a much needed vacation and watching Annabella splash around in a lake in all her 3 year old glory was amazing medicine.
I wanted to share with you a chapter from my forthcoming book, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves; Ditch Your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar. Let’s take on the Big Fat Lie “I don’t measure up”, shall we?
Big Fat Lie #5 : I don’t measure up.
Can also show up as: I am so much better than everyone else.
The Truth: It’s kind of like gambling in Vegas. If you play the comparison game, you will eventually lose — every time. When you are on the “winning team” (i.e., you feel you’re doing better, looking better, or achieving more), you lose by alienating yourself, coming off as arrogant, and creating distance instead of connection. When you’re on the “losing team” (i.e., everyone else is looking better, doing better, and achieving far more than you are), you end up feeling horrible about yourself. And who wants that?
My dear friend Samantha Bennett, creator of the Organized Artist Company, once said to me, “It’s like I’m in this gorgeous ballroom of my life and I’m focusing on the dust on the baseboards. And then I turn around and make the decision to compare my baseboard’s dust with someone else’s ballroom. I’ll never measure up that way.” Yes! That’s exactly right. We will never know what’s really going on in the lives of others. We only know the truth of our own lives. So, step out of the comparison game and step into the gorgeous ballroom of your life!
Challenge: Give up the comparison game for good, and celebrate the ballroom of your life!
• Notice when you are most likely to play the comparison game. In other words, when do you look at the dust on your baseboards? Is it when you’re thinking about money? Your weight or body image? Your love life? Your career?
• Decide to quit your comparison addiction cold turkey. My partner at Inner Mean Girl Reform School, Christine Arylo, loves calling this a “comparison diet.” Just like a new eating plan has you turning away from unhealthy food, this comparison diet asks you to be strict with yourself about your unhealthy comparison thoughts.
• Gather a support team that will hold you accountable for staying “on the wagon.” This team’s job is to blow the whistle whenever you play the comparison game and to encourage you to focus on what you have — your gorgeous ballroom. Call your team members whenever you feel yourself heading down the comparison path.
• Express gratitude for all that the ballroom of your life has to offer. Remember: many people have successfully given up addictions by going cold turkey. Let this inspire you to stop playing the comparison game.
Affirmation: I lift my eyes above the baseboards to see the whole picture of my life, full and glorious and incomparable!
“The rose does best as a rose. Lilies make the best lilies. And look! You — the best you around!”
— Rumi, thirteenth-century Persian poet and Sufi mystic
P.S. I just got word from the amazing Lisa Nichols, Women Master and participant in my upcoming Exposing the Big Fat Lies Tele-Summit (more soon!), about an incredible event called the Manifesting Money & Love Workshop.
Committed to helping everyone who wants to break through to the next level in either their finances, relationships, or both, Lisa is giving my friends an INCREDIBLE opportunity…
Manifesting Money & Love Workshop
A 3-day, 4-night course designed to catapult you to the next level is being offered to my community for HALF-PRICE AND GET THIS!!!!!
You get to bring someone with you for FREE!!!!!
That’s right! Until midnight on August 30th, you can register to join Lisa and four World-Class Trainers in her Manifesting Money & Love course on September 22nd- 25th for HALF of the regular investment, AND you can bless a friend or family member with this life-changing experience.
Register at half price and bring a guest for free! CLICK HERE for all the details!