I was in my bed fast asleep dreaming about sugar plums and roller coasters, when my 5 1/2 year old daughter, Annabella, rushes in exclaiming, “Mommy, we can be matching girls!” She was so excited I could hardly stand it. She had discovered a pair of white jeans in the latest box of hand-me-downs from her cousin…a perfect match for the pair of white jeans I had been sporting the last few weeks.
Matching girls indeed.
After I got over my initial feeling of, “OMG could she be more adorable?” I felt a wave of panic swelling…she really does want to be just like me.
I know her intense desire to be just like mommy might fade into something entirely new as she reaches the tween phase. But for now, I have a little witness in my household. A human being that will do as a do, NOT as I say. Who will emulate the good, the bad and the ugly.
It’s the biggest motivator I have to be the best person I can be and heal the habits, the Big Fat Lies, the Inner Mean Girls that can torture me. It’s why I have my own coaches – my spiritual and personal coach, Elisabeth Manning, and my business and partnership coach, Alexis Neely. Why I make sure I almost always have kale in the fridge to balance out the dark chocolate. Why I strive to do my morning mediation nearly every day (check out Annabella striking a mediation pose in the pic on the right!).
Some of mama’s good habits are wearing off. And I know some of the bad ones are too. Gulp.
I want Annabella to grow up practicing unconditional self-love and self-compassion. I want her to know that she is loved and that The Universe is a friendly place. I want her to find a vocation, a passion, a calling and make an incredible living from it. I want her to fall in love with a soul mate who treats her like a queen. I want her to find adventure and to make a difference in the world. I want her to be kind, compassionate, and downright happy.
And I want every single one of those things for me too. So I keep working on my sh*t. And hoping that I can model more good than bad. That the “matching girls” desire leads to Annabella thriving.
What about you, darling? What are you modeling for little witnesses in your life…your child, your niece or nephew, your intern, your friend’s kids? Let me know your dreams for them below!
P.S. I hope you had a chance to listen to my interview with my soul sister, Dr. Lissa Rankin, about her new book, Mind Over Medicine. It will blow your mind and empower you to heal yourself and write your own prescription.
P.P.S. I’m sending you so much love right now. Can you feel it? Let it remind you that you are doing a good job, sweetie.