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What are you sick and tired of?

What are you sick and tired of?

Post your response below:

What YOU are sick and tired of?

What’s one bold, inspired action you will take? Get into action and you will see the power you have!

Sending you much love and relentless enthusiasm,


P.S. As we get in touch with our deepest desires for change, let us remember those that have been impacted by the devastation in Japan. Let’s hold a vision for them to heal and feel our love. You can make donations to the Red Cross for relief efforts in Japan by clicking here.



By | 2017-05-25T10:25:06+00:00 March 15th, 2011|Coaching|53 Comments

About the Author:

Amy Ahlers, The Wake-Up Call Coach, is on a mission to stop women and mamas from being so darn hard on themselves. She is the bestselling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves & Reform Your Inner Mean Girl and she's been a Certified Life Coach for over 16 years. Amy is the co-creator of transformational programs such as Inner Mean Girl Reform School, Find Your Calling & Visionary Ignition Switch. Amy is passionate about helping soulful mamas embrace the messiness and magic of motherhood in her truth telling community, You can often find Amy holding hands with the love of her life and husband, Rob, as they chase after their firecracker daughters, Annabella and Evie Rose. She resides in the San Francisco Bay Area with her family and rescue mutt, Batman.


  1. Linda March 16, 2011 at 7:15 am

    I’m sick and tired of being untidy. Just when I make a bit of progress, I seem to let things go. I’m going to hire my uber-organized administrative assistant for 2 sessions on the weekends to help me go through stuff and purge, toss, donate all the things that are no longer supporting my life. She has no emotional attachment to my stuff, so she is good to use for this project.

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 8:59 am


      AWESOME! Keep me posted on the progress. I SO understand how clutter clutters your energy and mind. Highly recommend the book: “Clear your Clutter with Feng Shui” by Karen Kinston. Really inspiring!


  2. Loren March 16, 2011 at 7:29 am

    Hi, I am sick and tired of NUCLEAR POWER and everything else nuclear! It’s time to end the “Atomic Age,” I am joining NIRS: Nuclear Information & Resource to help them shut down our nuclear reactors, promote efficiency: the easiest way to change things in this country and get on the road to a happy healthy energy future for all! Please join me!

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:08 am

      Thanks, Loren. YES! One of the gifts in the devastation in Japan from the quake and tsunami is seeing how scary the nuclear reactors are and how much at risk we are. Thanks for taking a stand for us to take action on this important topic.


  3. Marygrace March 16, 2011 at 7:42 am

    I am sick and tired of all the magazines telling me how I can be better, how I be healthier, how I can live a better life. I am enough, just the way I am, right now!

    • Diana March 16, 2011 at 8:27 am

      Hey, Marygrace, your comment really spoke to me: “I am sick and tired of all the magazines telling me how I can be better, how I be healthier, how I can live a better life. I am enough, just the way I am, right now!” …and TV, movies, telling us how we can be beautiful.

      This was the inspiration for my blog, so wanted to share it with you. The tag line is “defining beauty from the inside out” —

      I’m so sick and tired of women being told what’s beautiful, right, better, etc. and feel we need to reclaim our autonomy from the media.

      FYI, I NEVER read those magazines.

    • Amira March 16, 2011 at 8:45 am

      You are not just enough. You are beautiful and marvellous and totally unique. We all are.

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:12 am

      YES YES YES! Marygrace, so powerful to see you taking a stand on this.

      I’m curious, what is the bold, inspired action you will take? Maybe canceling any subscriptions you have? Always bringing a book to the doctor’s office so you don’t fall prey to picking up a magazine. Standing in front of the mirror and telling yourself 10 things you love about you?


  4. Angela March 16, 2011 at 7:54 am

    I am sick and tied of being blamed for all the bad things that have happened in my husband’s life, past and present. I’m sick and tired of him using my illness as an excuse to drink every night and him blaming me for his loneliness, when he told me he didn’t want to be married anymore but would not divorce me.

    I have started babysitting and with that money I am saving half for an attorney to start divorce proceedings and the other half I am paying off debt I have incurred. I will be ready to move out by summer of 2012.

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:14 am


      I am really moved by your post. Thanks for being so brave and going “public” with what you’re going through.

      I’m sending you healthy thoughts for everything.


  5. Dyana Valentine March 16, 2011 at 8:11 am

    I’m with Linda on the tidy-tears–I’m taking a stand for building the homelife I want, one room at a time. TODAY: bathroom and office!! Yahooo. Thanks, Amy:)

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:14 am

      Beautiful, Dy!

      Love you sooooooo much!

  6. Karena March 16, 2011 at 8:17 am

    Im sick and tired of not generating abounding abundant income in areas that I love!!

    • Amira March 16, 2011 at 8:42 am

      Check out:Making the Leap from Debt to Financial Health. an audio by Margaret Lynch and Jessica Ortner.
      “The Tapping Solution” by Nick Ortner.
      I’m just starting, but it makes a huge difference in the way you feel. And that difference helps you generate the wealth you want. Be specific: ‘abundance’ is like ‘infinity’ you set yourself up for failure by wanting the impossible. Rather say: a Mercedes, a home in a specific area, closeness to family members – name them.
      Be happy.

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:16 am


      I know you are so not alone with this. Amira is right re: using tapping/EFT can be wonderful.

      I’m curious, what bold, inspired action you’re ready to take about this?


  7. Amira March 16, 2011 at 8:35 am

    I’m not sick and tired 🙂 enough to do anything yet.

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:18 am

      Thanks for the honesty, Amira.

      Sooooo, how bad does it need to get?

      Or are things so yummy that vision and passion can pull you instead of pain needing to push you into action?

      As humans, it has been said that only about 10-20% of the population will take action motivated by pleasure and vision. The majority of us need pain to motivate us…I’ve often felt like vision and a juicy goal will get me going.

      How about you?


  8. Karen March 16, 2011 at 8:49 am

    I’m sick and tired of allowing others, especially men, to treat me with such disrespect while they expect me to support them financially, as well as in every other areas and then to “like” it. I don’t like it and I’ve told my husband I want him to leave – over and over as he verbally assaults me – and he won’t. I guess I am just about to the sick and tired enough part where I will leave my beautiful home and then he has to move on. This allowing of abuse has been a lifetime problem probably stemming from my codependency that I’ve tried so hard to put in check. Thanks for the boost this morning Amy!

    • Divora March 16, 2011 at 11:49 am

      Dearest Karen,
      Get all your ducks in line, and leave. Yes this seems uber scary, but you appear ready for this huge step, towards self care. Two people have to want change in a dysfunctional marriage. So if you are ready and he is not, then step on your path of healthier living. I wish you strength and clarity. Blessings Divora

  9. julie diane March 16, 2011 at 8:51 am

    i’m sick and tired of not doing what i want to do in my life!!!!! of not expressing myself with enough confidence that it changes my life and feeds me what i know is out there if i would only plug in and believe~!!!! it’s my Birthday today…. and a whole new me… WATCH OUT WORLD!!****

  10. sonnia March 16, 2011 at 8:52 am

    Im sick and tired of not founding the life I want to live. Every time I start something I think will work, suddenly start to drive to a death end, why?? Im already exhausted!!

  11. Currie March 16, 2011 at 9:00 am

    I’m past “s&t” and into the one bite at a time method. I’ve found it far more delightful and encouraging.

  12. Sun Valley Jody March 16, 2011 at 9:06 am

    LOVE: I’m sick and tired of living alone and being single…and living in fear that I will always be this way. (So I already bought the recordings to the Ultimate Soulmate Summit and love them!) I deserve to be joyfully living my life with a soulmate! Our world needs more people to be in love and vibrating out healing love & joy to our challenged world! And that joy and love I deserve too…we ALL do! HELLO Soulmate…I’m ready for you! Please arrive soon!! THank you!

    JOY: I’m also sick and tired of thinking I don’t know enough to be a good holistic doctor. I know in my heart I have huge gifts to share and inspire the world with, yet I drag myself out of bed through a wall of fear every morning. I am ready to wake up with joy and excitement for the mystery of what each day holds and approach my career with JOY! Thank you Universe for assisting me with this.

    PEACE: I’m sick and tired of worrying about my health. In this moment, I am turning my worries over to the Universe and trust that each challenge is bringing me strength and that ‘this too shall pass.’ I deserve to have peace within myself and I am committed to building my trust in the Universe’s divine love for me and my body.

    • Dr Monica Lewis March 16, 2011 at 11:42 am

      Jody I am a holistic doctor and have finally found how to have such a vibrant life using my medical knowledge that I want other women doctors to have it too. will you email me? I am in beautiful New Zealand, but am happy to chat and I am excited to do so! I am up early and a colourful dawn is breaking on a new day. time to take simple actions to deal with the sick and tired! for me and you both! Monica

  13. Trish March 16, 2011 at 10:44 am

    I am sick and tired of: Tolerating medocrity in my life. There is too much richness in life to settle for anything less. It is time I use my God-given abilities.

    I am sick and tired of not jumping on opportunites that become open to me.
    I need to remind myself that I need to take a chance.

    I am sick and tired of looking for someone to complete me.
    Everything I need is already within in me.
    I am sick and tired of getting in my own way.

    I need to give myself a chance and step out of my way.

  14. Pat March 16, 2011 at 11:05 am

    I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. I need to get out of my own way and create the life I want, make the money I know I can and live a joyful life and help others.

  15. Sarah Love March 16, 2011 at 11:59 am

    I’m sick and tired of playing it safe and staying small. I know I have great strength, and I stay small in the presence of others who don’t care to grow. I’m sick and tired of being scared, of repeating the same old patterns, of telling the same story.

    So, each day I’m going to create a space for me to me with myself in all my glory. I’m going to spend time loving me, whatever that looks like on any given day, for at least 10 minutes. Even writing this scares me, but feels exhilarating at the same time!

    • cate March 18, 2011 at 4:16 am

      go Sarah! i wish you courage and strength to be glorious and huge. I love the idea of ten minutes for you to shine. I know it’s frustrating playing small over and over when you know who you really are.

  16. Heidi March 16, 2011 at 12:46 pm

    I’m sick and tired of nursing! I’ve been a psychiatric nurse for 28 years! I’ve been on such a long journey with this, sooooo long ……… and finally, at last, I’m totally thrilled to be in the place of knowing I can create a business, that it/I can and will be successful, that I can earn enough and actually more money than ever before, that, big sigh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can leave and I’ll not only be OK I will be the best I’ve been by far over these past 28 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for the video, I always know when I’m in the right place when I reach the ‘I am sick and tired of ……’, so brilliant you! and thank you so much for giving me a space to say this, out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  17. Angela March 16, 2011 at 1:03 pm

    I’m sick and tired of being unemployed and hearing everyone I know say………..don’t worry…you’re going to get a job. I hate “pat” answers. I might not get a job. It’s been 7 months but I hear stories of people being unemployed for years. I’m sick and tired of hearing “although your resume was impressive”. If it was that impressive, I think I would have been hired by now.

  18. Barbara BumbleBee March 16, 2011 at 1:11 pm

    Sarah Love and I have a lot in common! I’m sick and tired of not having the courage to push myself to get at least one the four books I’ve written published. I am starting a tea shop–I’m filled with exhilaration, excitement, and total terror! Most of all I’m sick and tired of having MS.

    But I am joyful to have Amy- Christine & SARK to keep me smiling!(and reaching within for the strength I know that’s there.) Thank you!

  19. Cherie March 16, 2011 at 1:45 pm

    I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I want to have energy and feel great. I don’t even remember what that feels like anymore. I bought Energy Medicine for Women yesterday and read the 1st chapter last night. Once I get to the exercises I will DO them and I will get my life back.

  20. Tami March 16, 2011 at 3:35 pm

    I am sick and tired of not having steady consulting work and waiting for my formerly consistent clients to get out of their budget holding patterns. I am going to renew my efforts to gain new, more ideal clients by reaching out to one new organization today (and more in coming days) and finding a new networking event to attend within the next week.

  21. Wendy March 16, 2011 at 5:36 pm

    I am sick and tired of the economy and worrying about my own money problems without being able to do anything more about them. I stay positive but still a bit scared.

  22. Lisa March 16, 2011 at 5:58 pm

    Im sick and effin tired of the media (thus the context we live in,aka America) promoting skin and bones on a woman. Do these men really want to bed down with a skeleton?
    Women we need to band together en masse and say no to being skeletons and yes to our Maryln Monroe plus figures. When need to stop watching/reading and supporting TV and mag’s that push this absurdity.

  23. Erika March 16, 2011 at 6:48 pm

    I’m sick and tired of my current lifestyle! I’m sick and tired of working in Customer Service for 40+ hours a week with the 2 hour commute everyday. I’m sick and tired of most of my waking hours going to a job that while it isn’t terrible, it’s just mediocre and I don’t want my life to be mediocre! I need to escape the corporate rat race! It’s exhausting!

    What I’ve decided to do to take a stand is I’m going to put together a portfolio of my photography that I do on the weekends and find a website to show my work. I also have some ideas on making a photo book/project on themes like, the river park in the city I live, or waterfalls in my area. I’m getting excited just thinking about it!!! 🙂

  24. Shakira March 16, 2011 at 7:47 pm

    I am sick and tired of trying to change my partner who is trying to quit alcohol because he use to be an alcoholic for a couple of years. Him and his entire family are grateful to my support and love for him which has brightened up his life. He calls me and texts everyday and tells me he loves me. Its been a year and I want to start moving onto marriage but he says he wants to possibly in a couple years. I can see he is a little scared of commitment but does everything else perfectly, he massages me when im sore, he cooks sometimes, he is loving and physically affectionate and doesnt ‘need’ sex like other men. I am the one who tends to get more horny than him. At the moment i have moved to queensland for a couple months so we are doing long distance relationship.

  25. Shakira March 16, 2011 at 7:53 pm


    Hang in there I think that you should keep trying to get a job. Being unemployed can be tricky because you fear you will not be given the opportunity to work as you want to. You might fear losing independence in the long-term. Have no fear. As long as you have a reasonable amount of skilss/ past work history I am sure will you get a job. Its just about time. And dont worry about what other people say. Some people feel ‘pity’ for someone who doesnt have a job but they cant help how they react. Its ok for them and for you. You know who you are and you shouldnt take their ‘care’ ‘onboard’ or personally. Youre amazing, keep your life filled with exciting and vibrant, things and ideas and learn something new each day. That way youre not losing time!


  26. Gnger March 16, 2011 at 9:12 pm

    I am sick and tired of feeling like crap all the time. I am sick and tired of hurting myself by over eating. I really am sick and tired of this headache, though, it makes me want to chew my own head off. I am SO sick and tired of having to hide how I really feel (physically) with my family (can’t scare the kids) and friends (still? really? awwww) I can hardly get of my bed or leave my house anymore. It scares me. I hate being scared. Tomorrow, I’m putting on my shoes and I’m gonna walk to the mailbox.

    • Shakira March 17, 2011 at 9:31 am


      I wish you all the strength in the world to start being honest with yourself about how you feel and making time for YOU so that you can be a better wife and mother. I hope that you can start to feel somewhat free and energetic.

  27. Tree March 16, 2011 at 9:34 pm

    I am really sick and tired of all the emphasis on personal growth and development when there is a nuclear crisis in Japan that is affecting the whole planet. It is time to “wake up women” and to be more concern about ending nuclear power than tidying up your house or getting new pairs of underwear. Come on, there are hugely important issues to be concerned about in our world. We have got to put more emphasis on solving our energy crisis and saying “no to nukes” instead of saying “no to whatever is not working in your personal life. We have to go beyond our personal saga and care and take action more for the world we live in.

    • Amy Ahlers March 16, 2011 at 9:57 pm


      Thank you so much for this comment. I felt alive with fire as I read it, because it speaks to a big piece of what why I think it is so vital for us to get in touch with something like what we’re sick and tired of. It is a wake-up call to let the fire ignite so we stop sleep walking. We see the images on TV, maybe even reach out to loved ones in Japan, but it can be so hard to know how to stay awake and make a difference…especially when it is so removed from our daily lives.

      I do not beleive the answer is to turn away from our own personal growth or solving our own issues. I believe our healing leads to all healing, our staying awake and taking action in anything from underwear upgrades to stopping the cycle of comparison with airbrushed models to walking around the block IS a step in the right direction for everyone.

      As I’ve transformed my own life to be one I love and watched countless clients do the same I see renewed energy around giving back, around staying awake, around being in service. And most importantly around feeling the deep connection in the soul that we are all one and that we must be there for each other.

      So please know this isn’t about leaning into personal saga and keep us from everything that is going on in the world. It is about creating action and inspiration and joy in our lives so that we can have the energy to give back in the biggest way possible.

      With love and gratitude,

      P.S. I also feel inspired to put a link to donations for the crisis in Japan based on your response. So thank you for deepening my commitment to making a difference.

  28. Cathleen March 16, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    I’m sick and tired of being overweight! I’m sick and tired of binge eating and emotional eating. I can’t wait for the day that I can figure this whole thing out and lose the unwanted pounds on my body and discover the beautiful physical self inside me.

  29. claudia March 17, 2011 at 3:12 am

    I’m sick and tired of be small, play small and hide myself…waiting for someone to give me authorization to be as i know i am.
    Thanks Amy for give me the space to say loudly: i allow myself to shine my colours in the world and create a sparkling lifestyle that nourish me at every level!!!!
    Many, many shining blessing!

  30. Joy March 17, 2011 at 7:31 am

    I am sick and tired of putting the things that do provide abundant income, and a life on the back burner.

  31. rosylee March 17, 2011 at 2:50 pm

    I’m sick and tired of my ex husband calling me names (psycho etc.) over the past 7 years. I’ve seen the police about it again and they’re going to tell him there’s to be no contact! Such a relief.

    I’m also sick and tired of the unqualified ‘we are all one’ mantra. In my experience there’s more to this ‘we’. There are predators who prey on the vulnerable who only appear to be human (See Robert Hare’s Without Conscience) – are we one with these predators too? Makes me shudder to think.

  32. cate March 18, 2011 at 3:59 am

    i’m sick and tied of my fear to be big in the world, to believe in myself as an artist to fully stand behind myself. I’m sick of shrinking. i can only manage day by day modest acts of courage and to just keep making art practising trust rather than a fabulous leap (though leaping is very appealing)

  33. Julie March 18, 2011 at 4:35 am

    I’m sick and tired of my house always being a mess. I get it picked up, turn around, and someone has already put something on the stairs, spilled something on the kitchen counter, or strewed the contents of their latest project all over the living room– you get the drift. I can’t stay ahead of it, and it’s now out of control. I’m embarrassed to have anyone over. I can only make a dent here and there, and the clutter is driving me nuts!!!

  34. Audrey March 19, 2011 at 11:30 am

    I’m totally in agreement with everyone’s clutter frustration – I’m gradually getting a handle on one room at a time – probably because I scheduled a visit from a clutter consultant and in some perverse way that’s got me moving on cleaning up! 😉

    What I’m sick and tired of right now is how little progress I’m making on my job/client search – in part because I get sidetracked by things like clutter – and then I’m sick and tired of my self-talk over how little I’m getting done on what *really* matters (getting some income).

    What am I doing about it? First I’m trying to not just make lists of all the things I should be doing, but actually scheduling them on my calendar – that helps a little because I can see that I’ve really done something. Now I need to be able to give myself a little recognition when I finish one thing – there are just so many things to do, individual accomplishments feel insignificant.

    ~ Audrey

  35. Astrid Maria March 20, 2011 at 10:14 am

    Why Amy, thank you! For making me notice I may be annoyed or even rather tired of some things at times, like

    – females portrayed in movies ánd documentaries as 60 kilo’s of lean meat to be either slayed by the bad guy or rescued by the good one
    – university being so little about real, true, human life worldwide and so much about overrational nitty-gritty details
    – people seemingly taking it as a matter of fact I need to find a new man ASAP to feel complete,and
    – The Secret plus the clones of it telling my if I don’t have the perfect health, wealth, man, ferrari etcetera it is all on me –
    But now…

    – I write loads of articles for magazines on true, powerful ánd loving femininity..
    – ánd now I write university papers too, hopefully one day to be turned into a book on Goddess spirituality, tantra, Kali and other juicy bits of refreshing insights on the female…
    – anything I run into online or in print suggesting I should go out there getting myself another man (again..) while I am simply happy this way right here right now, I just smile at knowingly, delete the lot and move on
    – I got rid of my copy of The Secret, went back to my beloved Kabbalah studies and now, pressure off, live happily knowing that God is my co-pilot and I don’t need to take that huge rock of false responsibility on my neck anymore:
    – feel blissfull through and through being modestly succesfull in my career…
    – am pretty healthy but with some scars to show I may not have Secreted my way out of getting into hospital but indeed lived and made it through…
    – and am faaar from materially wealthy but thoroughly appreciative of my small but pretty rental appartment, a bit of savings to get me through college, and a full fridge every week…

    so, that is what I do, and thank you for reminding me I am not sick and tired anymore! (well, almost never.. I am human…)

  36. Maria Emilia March 21, 2011 at 8:15 pm

    I’m Sick and tired of crying over my ex. I still love him and maybe that will or won’t change, but I’m going to move on, start dating other guys and remember who I am.

  37. Gayle Ellison-Davis April 1, 2011 at 10:36 am

    I’m sick and tired of putting things off!! LOL! I’m only just reading this!!
    Aries going into Mars … and boys am I ready to move! 🙂

    Lovely. Just what I needed today. Thank you!

  38. Lisa Marie May 28, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    I am sick and tired of the double standard at work, the cliques, and the different treatment the “special” people receive (those people in the cliques). I have begun to “talk” about it. When I do, though, I am just a “pot stirrer”. I want to see some changes though.

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