I see you over there with your mile long “to-do” list. With the words swirling in your head; “There. Isn’t. Enough. Time.”

Feeling exhausted and depleted. Aching for a break and some time for YOU.

I feel you because I AM you. (And I’ve coached women like you for over 15 years.)

I felt it creeping back in this past week. That feeling of being at the end of my rope. My husband was gone recording an album for 6 days and I was left home with my two girls for the first time since Evie was born. When I realized that Annabella had a school break starting last Friday as well, I honestly nearly cried. I could feel the stress mounting.

I created amazing support for the daytime, but it’s the dinner time, bedtime routine that kills me. I’m tired, the girls are tired, and I couldn’t seem to get it together. And I could feel the resentment starting to make her way through my front door.

Stop. Drop. Do a radical act of self-care.

Consciously do an action and name it as an act of self-love. Call a friend. Take a bath. Go on a run. Call a sitter and get to the movies. Find that thing that feels indulgent and nurturing for you. Then declare it self-love.

A bath is just a bath, unless you say to yourself, I’m easing my way into this warm bubble bath with a candle lit because I love myself.

Exercise is just exercise, unless you say to yourself, I love myself enough to run up this staircase to my favorite song so I can celebrate how strong my body is.

Calling a friend can be just mindless chatter, unless you say to yourself (and your friend), “SOS. I’m reaching out for some love and support as an act of self-care and self-love!”

This lets your entire being KNOW that you are creating space for you. It allows the resentment to fade and the love to expand.

Do whatever it takes to ensure resentment doesn’t become your new best friend.

Because living with resentment is like eating poison everyday for breakfast. It kills your joy, your health and your relationships.

As we teach in Inner Mean Girl Reform School, it’s not about finding time, it’s about creating space. Space for you and your self care.