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The Wake-Up Call Show: Halloween Picture Insanity

Dear One,

It’s Halloween time, which means that like it or not your feed on Facebook, Pintrest, and Twitter are going to be filled with kids in their costumes, babies in their costumes, teenagers in their costumers, and yes probably even some moms and dads and their costumes.Evie Ladybug

Why? Why oh why do all of us parents endlessly post pictures of our children doing anything we deem adorable? The answer is simple really. It’s about survival. You see parenting is frickin hard work. It is the toughest, craziest, most challenging job you can ever imagine. And, hope this goes without saying, the absolute hands-down BEST part of my life.

Visit any family’s home at 7:30am on a weekday and you’ll likely see pure chaos. Lunch being negotiated, breakfast being made, permission slips being signed (last minute of course), homework frantically getting finished, diapers being changed, babies getting nursed, parents desperately trying to get out the door to deliver their kids to school, deliver themselves to work, get their babies to daycare or put their little ones down for a nap.

So please forgive us for posting all of these pictures of our babies and Bella Zombiekids doing anything “cute”. We need to celebrate, share and be witnessed in the magnificence of our children. Because if we didn’t it would be so hard to face bedtime that night. (And don’t even get me started around bathtime.) These pictures of our little ones in all their glory imprint the goodness of parenting in our brains. It allows our hearts to glow with joy and pride to get us through the next melt down, poop explosion, homework negotiation, teenaged eye roll or 3am nursing.

So celebrate my little ladybug and zoobie with me. Allow me to relish in their beauty for this moment.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for celebrating the children with us. It gives us the strength to be the kind of mom and dad we aspire to be.

Happy Halloween!

P.S. I’ve been feeling a calling in my heart and soul to to tell the TRUTH about motherhood. To celebrate both the messiness AND the magic. I’m starting a new (closed) Facebook group called Mama Truth Circle for mamas who want to join me in sharing the full spectrum of motherhood.

GO HERE to join us for free!

Simply click the “join group” button to request membership and my team will approve you after we confirm you’re a mama. (No lookie-loos allowed!)

I can’t wait to share more with you about Mama Truth Circle and hear your stories and create a community of like-minded Mamas. Please feel free to invite moms you love to join us!

Please leave me a comment below and let me know what you are CELEBRATING right now!

The Wake-Up Call Show: Embracing the f*cking paradox!

Dearest One,

Motherhood with two little ones has been kicking my butt!

I’m sleep deprived and weary, feeling the paradox of motherhood so strongly. I made a super short 2 minute video for you about it. I have no make up on and huge bags under my eyes…keeping it REAL for you cause that’s how I roll!

I so badly want to savor Evie in all her baby glory AND I want this phase of parenting to be OVER.

I want freedom AND I want to hold her close.

I want to have space to launch a new project for Mamas AND I want to be a stay at home mom.

I love being a mom AND I can’t stand being so relied on.

Oh the f*cking paradox!

So I’m embracing all of the parts of me and giving them love. Allowing them to peacefully co-exist, making all of my desires RIGHT.

Where is the paradox showing up for you? Let me know below.

May you unconditionally love ALL of you!

With sleepy eyes,

P.S. You matter, Dear One!

Let me know below where the paradox is showing up for you and how embracing ALL of it feels. :)

The Wake-Up Call Show: Love, Loss & Legacy

Dearest One,

What’s the legacy you wish to leave behind?

Over the course of the past few weeks I’ve had the honor to hold the hand of one of my best friends, Shiloh Sophia McCloud, as she said goodbye to her co-parent, teacher and mentor, the legendary painter and master teacher, Sue Hoya Sellars. Sue is the inspiration for the Intentional Creativity MoImageProxy.mvcvement and an Art Matriarch to hundreds of students worldwide.

On the right is one of my favorite Sue masterpieces called “Glimpse of the Portal.” I imagine Sue is on the other side of the portal now basking in the light of the cosmos. 

In Sue’s honor, there is a tribe that is committing 30 days of art right now. People from around the world are painting, praying, writing poetry, dancing and sitting in sacred ritual every single day. And that is just beginning. You can read more about Sue’s legacy and are welcome to participate in the Terra Sophia Sanctuary project in honor of Sue Hoya Sellars here. (We’ve raised nearly $25k in Sue’s honor. Make sure to check out the perks if you are inspired to contribute. We just added a painting class with Shiloh and me!)

It is truly inspiring.It has been astonishing to witness the profound legacy Sue is leaving behind. I’ve never experienced anything quite like it.

It has me investigating my own legacy. Pondering what will be left behind when I leave the planet. (After all as the saying goes, “no one here gets out alive.”)

How about you? What is the legacy you’ll leave behind?

Marinate and ponder the inquiries below to tap into your unfolding legacy:

  • What do you most want to be remembered for? (And are you acting on that every day?)
  • Who in your life will be most impacted by your passing? Are you in right, clean, good relationship with those that matter most? (If not, let this email catalyze you to reach out, forgive, ask for forgiveness, create connection, lean into love).
  • Are there any dreams you’ve put on hold or been putting off until the “time is right”? (It’s time to dust them off and open your heart to them.)
  • If you knew you had only one year to live, what, if anything, would you be doing differently? (What can you act on NOW?)

I discovered from answering the questions that I am striving to stay in alignment each day with my soul and my ever evolving purpose.  I want to be remembered as a present, loving, compassionate mama to my two girls and wife to my beloved husband. I hope to be remembered as a creator and teacher of content that inspires and create goodness in the world and to leave behind books that give insight, hope and tools for unconditional self-love. I long to to be known as a good citizen and be of service to the world at large in big and small ways. I have one project that has been calling to me that I’m committed to putting energy into before the end of the year. I could go on and on…

Ponder the questions above and let me know how it goes below. I always love hearing from you.

You’re doing a good job. I’m so grateful you are on the planet at this time and in this place.

With a sprinkling of red rose petals,

P.S. I dare you to “commit an act of art” today in Sue’s honor. Paint, dance, draw,write a song, recite Shakespeare, write a poem… You are an ARTIST. Own it.I double dog dare you to share your act of art in the comments here. (Below)

​P.P.S. I know that for many of you writing a memoir is part of your legacy and I wanted to share something really sacred and special with you that my dear friend, Melanie Bates,  has created just for 12 women who are ready to tell their story. Melanie will teach you the importance of story in your life and how to become a master storyteller, as well as the author of your own brilliant story – both the tangible book you’ll hold in your hands, and the intangible stories you hold in your hearts. You will cross the boundaries of time and space and work on past, present and future simultaneously to change your life in big and beautiful ways.

Are you one of the 12 women ready to take on the quest? GO HERE to read the full invitation. Tell Melanie I sent you. This is going to be an amazing journey!

Ponder the questions above and let me know how it goes below. I always love hearing from you.


The Wake-Up Call Show: What if you’re always winning the game you’re playing, Dear One?

Dearest One,

Lately, I’ve been contemplating life’s big questions.  Mostly at my 4am nursing sessions with Evie, when the house is still and the oxytocin is flowing and I’m half asleep in dreaminess.

I’m lucky – I get to commune with other folks who also spend time contemplating life’s big questions.  People, like you, that are interested in living on purpose, having meaning in their lives and fulfilling their potential.Winning

One of the questions that recently hit me in the solar plexus, leaving me examining everything in my life, is a framework I was reminded of recently by fellow coach, Stacey Morgenstern. It’s a doozy!

What if you’re always winning the game you’re playing?

You know – in life.

See, I do believe that we get to take responsibility for our lives – for the way we experience our lives.  And I do believe that the universe is conspiring for us to win.  So then, it makes sense that we are always winning the game we are playing!

But if that’s all true, why do we create games that we really DON’T WANT to play? It can be all too easy to go unconscious and go on auto-pilot, letting our Inner Mean Girls/ Inner Critics, our past or even society to chose our games.

But I believe with all my heart that we can transform the game we’re playing when we commit to doing so.

Here are some of the games I used to play that I’ve successfully transformed:

  • The “I have to do it all myself” game has been transformed to the “I have a kick ass team that supports me and my work” game.
  • The “I am a struggling entrepreneur that never has enough money to get ahead” game has been transformed ot the “I have amazing streams of income and abundance” game.
  • The “I have to chose between my family’s needs and my callings needs” game has been transformed to the “When I’m in service to my family, I’m in service to the world and when I’m in service to the world, I’m in service to my family” game.

What are some of the games you’ve transformed? Let me know below.

So that brings up the next questions – What games do you WANT to be playing? And what’s the game you’re ready quit altogether?

For me, I’m currently transforming the “I struggle with my weight” game and the “I have to work really hard to create money” game.

What about you?

Now, I’m not trying to bring on an Inner Mean Girl attack!   This isn’t about blame and shame – it’s about getting clear about what you want in life, what’s holding you back, and most importantly, what shifts do you need to make to truly manifest your heart’s desires…to create a GAME YOU LOVE PLAYING?

When we start to get honest with ourselves about the game we are really playing, we start to have the power to shift – and to begin to manifest what we do want, instead of UNmagical manifestations. How cool is that!?

GO BELOW to post a game that you’ve already transformed and what game you’re ready to transform. I’d LOVE to hear from you!

Walking onto a JOYFUL playing field,

P.S. I have SO MUCH more to share about how I’ve transformed the games I’m playing. It’s one of the MANY things we’re going to be diving deep into for 7 wMMM pichole weeks in the Magical Manifestation Method program I’m co-leading with my dear friend SARK and her partner, psychologist Dr. John Waddell. Hundreds of students around the world have said YES to changing their games and magically manifesting. I’d be truly HONORED to have you join us. Class begins TODAY!

GO HERE to learn more and to register for Magical Manifestation Method. It’s a game-changer…LITERALLY!

P.P.S Oh my goodness are there some other game changing things I want to share with you!

The first is I’m excited to announce my participation as an expert speaker on Transform Your Health World Summit with host Marcie Peters! I’ll be joining 22 of the world’s top health experts discussing autoimmunity, weight loss, chronic disease, nutrition, food and gluten sensitivity, emotional health, sleep, fitness, detoxification, and more! Head on over to save your free spot and for instant access to free gifts.

The second is an AMAZING FREE CALL from a Brilliant Visionary, Tamar Henry, about Fertility Curveballs. This is so dear to my heart, as I was in fertility limbo for nearly 2 years when manifesting my baby girl, Evie Rose.  If  you are struggling with getting pregnant or you’ve experienced one or more miscarriages, this is the call for you. Tamar gets it.  She’s experienced three losses in close proximity and is currently in “fertility limbo” . She wants to support you by sharing what has help her emotionally and spiritually along this journey.  If you or a loved one would benefit from this information and support, please GO HERE and register for this FREE call on 9/18/14 or to get the recording.

The Wake-Up Call Show: The most important question to ask when you’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious! (Video)

Dear Darling One,

Maybe there is an area of your life where you’re feeling anxious, worried or overwhelmed?  Maybe it’s worries about your finances, health, career, kids, or relationships that are keeping you up at night.   (I so get it!)

Or maybe you just completed a fabulous project or had an unexpected life transition and you’re asking yourself “now what?”

There is a super, duper important question for you to ask yourself in those moments so you can get out of reaction mode and into creation mode. I made a quick and powerful 4 minute video for you sharing the most important question to ask yourself:

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It is so important to ask yourself what it is you want to CREATE so you can stop feeling victimized by life and start magically manifesting what you want.

I have so much more to share with you on the topic of manifesting! Have you signed up for my free Expand Your Manifestation Power video series I co-created with SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) and Dr. John Waddell? It is a smokin’ hot series filled with juicy tools to help you create a live you adore. GO HERE to register gratis.

You deserve to feel inspired by your life.

You deserve to feel an abundance of magic and miracles.

You deserve to feel like life loves you. Cause it does!

With unstoppable enthusiasm,

P.S. Remember, you can watch today’s video 4 minute here and let me know what you are ready to create in the comments.

And you can catch the Expand Your Manifestation Power video series with me, SARK and John here. It goes into so much more depth and is filled with tons of comments from like minded souls ready to magically manifest.

P.P.S. And if that wasn’t enough goodness, I’m super excited to invite you to join me and a bad ass line-up of truly rebel-rousing women to shake the foundations of the old tired stories and Big Fat Lies that keep us trapped, limited and diminished! Come on board a moving energy that will dazzle, inspire and charge you up to let go of the self-sabotage crap so you can step into the bold, abundant career, business, body and love life you want.

GO HERE to join me for the Women Howling Loudly Global Summit.

AmyJo Howling





Leave a comment below about where you’re shifting from overwhelm and panic to creating what you want. I love hearing from you!

The Wake-Up Call Show: “Oh Crap!” Action or Inspired Action?

Dear One,

I was having lunch with a new friend and fellow coach the other day when my 1:08pm Cast The Burden angel harp alarm went off, reminding me to release my worries and burdens up like a gift to The Universe. We took a breath together and each released whatever was weighing us down, remembering that we don’t have to carry it all alone.

This led to an interesting conversation about releasing attachments and all this “magical manifesting” stuff I keep sharing about. My friend said, “I mean I get releasing your worries and focusing on what you want, but don’t you think we need to also do something about about it? Don’t we need to take action?”

Um yeah! I sure as heck do.

The difference is in the quality of the action and where is comes from. I want myself and my clients and students to take action that is aligned with our Inner Wisdom and that flows from inspiration. I’m advocating for us to take Inspired Action instead of “Oh Crap!” action. 

Here’s a little chart for ya that I co-created years ago with a coaching colleague, Melissa McFarlane, to help you decipher the difference:

Inspired Action is characterized by:
Knowing/decision and commitment
Energetic connection with the joy and good 
A feeling that you are enough and able
Feeling you are part of a team/family/network
A sense of humor and perspective
Creativity that originates from you
A brave frontier, blank page, clean slate
“Oh Crap” Action  is characterized by:
Fear or uncertainty/indecision
A grasping or hoping energy
Nervousness or worry
Feeling worthless
Distrust or limited belief
Feeling that the burden is yours alone to carry
Being deadly serious, inflexible, or short sighted
Desperation and Looking to others for guidance
Resentment, obligation or guilt

Where in your life could you shift to Inspired Action? What is the major shift that would occur in your life if you took inspired action?
Let me know in the comments below.

Putting my fairy wings on,

P.S. I have so much more to shareEMP_sark3 about magical manifesting! Have you joined me and SARK and Dr. John Waddell for our Expand Your Manifestation Power video series yet? It’s totally free and utterly fabulous!

GO HERE to Expand Your Manifestation Power



P.P.S. Im also honored to be a guest speaker at the Love, Money and Miracles FREE Virtual Summit. Join me and 21 Masters who will share our secrets to overcoming blocks and the best practices for Getting the Love you want and Money you deserve! You can create miracles, but only if you Register now!


Let me know below where you’re ready to take Inspired Action!

The Wake-Up Call Show: Feeling like bug soup? (VIDEO)

Dear One,

Do you ever feel like bug soup?

No I’m not referring to some new Asian fusion cuisine. I’m talking about what a sweet little caterpillar goes through when transforming into a beautiful butterfly. During metamorphosis, the caterpillar literally becomes a liquid filled with imaginal cells. Then, like magic the imaginal cells put themselves back together into a new form, becoming that gorgeous butterfly.

It’s the perfect metaphor for what happens when we are in the midst of a big change in our lives. We need to go through that same process. Caterpillar, cocoon, disintegrate, emerge as the butterfly.

Martha Beck, Lissa Rankin and I like to refer to this time period of liquifying, when you unsure of what the heck is going on, feeling like you’re as lost as lost can be, as bug soup.

So, let me ask you again. Do you ever feel like bug soup? (Me too!)

I made a video for ya, my fellow butterfly to be.

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One of the most important things about the bug soup phase of things it to keep breathing, trusting and surrendering to the transformation afoot. You will emerge as that butterfly…swearsies!

Fly high,

P.S. If you want some community, support and wisdom when you’re in bug soup land about your life purpose, I highly recommend joining Martha Beck, Lissa Rankin and me for our Finding Your Calling program.

We just launched a super special HALF OFF sale to celebrate the course’s transformation to home-study. It is only good until tomorrow, midnight ET.

GO HERE to lock in the Find Your Calling program for 50% off. Use the code “butterfly” to receive half off. Remember, that  half off coupon expires tomorrow, August 14th at midnight ET. 

Leave a comment below letting me know where in your life you’re feeling like bug soup and what is the butterfly that is longing to emerge!

The Wake-Up Call Show: What I know for sure after 10 years of marriage

Dearest One,

Tomorrow, July 17th, is my 10 year wedding anniversary. I cannot believeahlers wedding that Rob and I tied the knot a decade ago. We wed in beautiful Ojai, California, known as Southern California’s Valley of the Moon, in blistering heat surrounded by our very closest family and friends. It was one of the best days of my life and one of the best decisions I’ve ever made to marry this man of mine.

Over these past 10 years that have had great ups and downs, losses and disappointments, bliss and unbelievable joy, I’ve discovered a few things.

A Safe Harbor
Every marriage has agreements, some spoken, some unspoken. Rob and I decided long ago that our relationship would be our safe harbor. ahlers (2)We are each other’s home. A place to rest and replenish, a place to seek refuge and lick our wounds. We go to the outside world for rigor and to work our growing edges, to be challenged and get agitated to become more. And then we return to each other for hugs and comfort. This has worked so well in our marriage. I know many marriages (and have been in other relationships) where the agreement is to challenge each other and push each other to more greatness. And that works perfect for them. For us, it’s divine to be the safe landing place. What works for you?

Be on the Same Team
The biggest blessing in my marriage is that we’ve always felt like we’re on the same team. We’ve never had to work at that, it’s just been there. When a challenge or crisis arrives on our doorstep we look at it together and tackle it as teammates. This has saved us time and time again during breakdowns, chaos and disagreements. Adding children to the relationship makes this even more vital. We work hard to never undercut one another with parenting decisions. It is important for us.

Eyes Wide Open
Wedding Album Our path to marriage got really, really rocky for a minute there. In fact, we were engaged, then got un-engaged, then engaged again, then, at last, married. We never left the relationship, but there were several freak outs led by little ole’ me over a course of a year. Rob was never attached to getting married, but I really wanted to. When he proposed (in the most romantic way EVER when he wrote a song for me) I was so filled with joy and bliss I was shaking. Then I panicked. How could I truly KNOW that we would be together forever? The answer was I couldn’t. But I was willing to take our own unique vows of marriage and make the leap of faith. And I’ve never looked back.

Growing Old Together
Rob and I were talking about our upcoming anniversary and I commented, “I mean when we pooks and bella ponydecided to grow old together I just didn’t get…” and he finished it “that we’d actually get old?” YES! That’s exactly it.

It didn’t really sink in that Rob would witness me getting wrinkles and my first gray hair. That I’d watch Rob get reading glasses and get less hair :) That we’d see each other wake up some mornings after a night up with one of our baby girls feeling exhausted to the bone, with creaky knees and eyes at half-mast and look at one another and say, “I’m too old for this!” (That’s what happens when you receive baby #2 at 40 years old and 44 years old.)

What a privilege it is to have a witness to my life that is full of such unconditional love. I’ve never once, in 10 years of marriage and 14 1/2 years of partnership, felt judged by Rob. Isn’t that remarkable? He just loves me…and I love him right back.

Choose Each Other Time and Time Again
This weekend we are going on a camping trip with my Mindful Mamas group and we’ll be renewing our vows in front of the camp fire. On Amy Rob Evieour wedding day we did not do the “death til you part” thing. With the divorce rate at over 50%, we just didn’t get how anyone can make that promise. Instead we stated that our intention was to spend the rest of our lives together. And our intention to do so continues to be clear and true. Our vows read: “With this ring, I declare my intention that from this day forward you shall not walk alone…I promise to do my best.” What more can we ever promise?

Living Together Side by Side as Best Friends
I believe we have many soul mates that come in many forms. Our children, our dear friends, our sisters, our beloved pets, our parents. And of course, our romantic partners. It takes a village to raise our children and to raise ourselves. We need tribes around us. We need fulfilling work and meaningful friendships. We need a connection to spirit, the divine. And yet we are whole all by ourselves. Rob gives me space to do my work as a coach, author, speaker and teacher. I give him space to do his incredible music. We join together as best friends and appreciate each other as individuals.

On our wedding program we have this Rainer Maria Rilke quote:

“Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.”


Stay Awake
My mission and intention for our next decade of marriage and beyond is to continue to stay awake. To give gratitude for Rob and his sweet smile and gentle eyes every single day. To continue to truly see him as the incredible human being, man, husband and father that he is. He supports me like no other. HRob Eviee sees my faults and freak outs, my controlling ways and utter imperfections and loves me anyway. He’s watched me birth our two daughters, seen me through many dress sizes, seen me on stage in front of hundreds, and walked in on me sobbing in the bathtub alone. And he sticks around for it all.

I’ve watched him hold our slippery newborn daughters mere moments after being born. I’ve seen him hit the drums in front of thousands of screaming fans at 1am, and watched him unable to keep his eyes open at 7:30pm. I held his hand when his adoptive mom took her last breath and watched him speak courageous words at his birth mom’s memorial service. I’ve seen him teach Annabella to swim and talk his best friend through his divorce. And I still laugh at his ridiculous jokes and know when he needs some love.

Rob, you are my favorite person on the planet. You are my best frifamily2end and my soul mate, my lover and my baby daddy. Thank you for being my husband.

May we continue to stay awake in our love story.

Dear One, thank you for witnessing our 10 year anniversary by reading this!

What have you learned about love over the last 10 years? Let me know here (below).

With tears in my eyes and gratitude in my heart,




P.S. I know my Wake-Up Call Wednesdays have been inconsistent since I returned from my maternity leave. I’m neck deep in book edits for my new book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl, that I’m co-authoring with my partner, Christine Arylo (due out Spring of 2015). It’s been a crazy busy summer! Thanks for your patience.

Once the book is turned in, I have so many exciting things cookin for the Fall including a virtual retreat AND live event with SARK and Dr. John Waddell and so much more. Stay tuned!

P.P.S. I always love hearing your reflections to my posts on my blog. GO BELOW and let me know what you’ve learned from your relationships. I read every comment!!


The Wake-Up Call Show: Cast the Burden

Dear One,

First, thank you so much for your emails, comments and reflections from Evie’s Birth story. I always appreciate your insights and love.

For today’s Wake-Up Call Wednesday I was inspired to create a 3 minute video for you on a recent hike with my little one. (Yes, Evie Rose makes a cameo!)

In the video, I talk about the power of casting the burden and surrendering whatever is weighing you down to the The Divine. I first learned about this concept about 15 years ago when I encountered the amazing book The Game Of Life and How to Play It. This book, first published in 1925, rocked my world and taught me how empowered we are to create what we want in our lives.

In the video I also ask you to join me in setting an alarm (with an inspiring, soothing sound–I prefer angel harps!) at 1:08pm each day to remind you to “cast the burden” in your life. There is great power in being reminded every single day that you can surrender life’s stresses and burdens up to Source energy. Ahhhh…that feels good!

Won’t you join me in casting the burden, right now in this very moment? And then continuing to do so every day? Let me know that you’re IN by leaving a comment below.

With unstoppable enthusiasm,

P.S. Just imagine the power of tens of thousands of us having an alarm sounding at 1:08pm every day to remind us to cast the burden. This is going to be so much fun!\

Let me know what burden you are casting up to The Divine in this very moment and that you’re IN for setting your 1:08pm reminder in the comments below.

And make sure to share this post with your friends so they can join in.

I’ll be posting my 1:08pm burdens on my Facebook page. Join me there each day so we can share in our casting of our burdens!


The Wake-Up Call Show: Evie’s Birth & Life Lessons

Dearest One,

I’m baaaack!

I’m slowly starting to emerge from the newborn baby cocoon now that Evie Rose is officially 3 months old. She’s not a newborn anymore. She’s a full blown baby with chubby thighs and big smiles and a snort filled chuckle that melts my heart. **Serious SWOON!**

3monthevieSo here I am, beginning to come back into butterfly form. My wings are still damp and I’m nowhere near ready to fly, but I can see the sunlight and I’m taking slow steps out to get a glimpse of sky.

I’ve been processing and integrating Evie’s birth story and all the lessons it gave me and I wanted to share it with you today. It is an absolute metaphor for everything in my life…and perhaps your life too?

It all began months before Evie was born. I remember hitting the third trimester milestone and walking into a prenatal yoga class fighting back tears. It had finally really, truly sunk in: I had to go through childbirth again. SHIT!

I mean really, people. I was going to push a nearly 8 pound baby out of my vagina or go through a major surgery to bring her into the world. All you mamas that have given birth know what I’m talking about. It is one helluva thing to process. And it can feel downright scary!

LESSON #1: Tell the truth and forgive to clear out the past

I began having flashbacks to my firstborn, Annabella’s, birth. She was late. Very late. 2 weeks past her due date late. 12 days past the due date I was told that I was going to need to be induced the next day or I’d be going against medical advice. (Western medicine frowns upon letting babies go past 42 weeks due to complications.) I remember going home and bawling my eyes out because I really wanted to do things as naturally as possible. And having a two phase induction meant that I’d be medicated from the start. 

But I was also almost 42 weeks pregnant. I was huge and so incredibly uncomfortable after 2 weeks of contractions on and off that never went into a labor pattern. Add to that the late summer heat and the hormones and I relented and accepted my fate. When I checked into the hospital on the night of September 3rd it turned out I was  in early labor so they gave me a hit of petocin to augment and I was off and running. My contractions were coupling and I was getting no break, so then came the epidural. Next came antibiotics due to spiking a fever and then, after 2 and 1/2 hours of pushing, they used a vacuum to assist because Annabella’s heart rate was dropping.  Thank goodness I ended up with a healthy baby  in my arms. But it was definitely a very medicated birth with moments of intense fear.

As I prepared for Evie’s birth, I spent time making peace with Annabella’s birth. I found a perspective about it that worked for me; “It was the birth we both needed to have at that moment. It was divine and sacred in its own way.”

LESSON #2: Create a Vision 

As I let go of my last birth experience, I created a vision for Evie’s birth with out attachment. One that included little to no medical interventions if at all possible. One where I could feel empowered and surrendered all at the same time. A birth with as little suffering as possible, even though there would be painbirthing tub

I talked with the little being in my belly for months, asking her to come a few days early or right on time. I was SO not wanting to be 2 weeks late again…that was really really hard the first time around. Childbirth really is co-creation in its purest form. And yet as I had learned with Annabella’s birth, I was not in charge. I asked for the highest good for all concerned and left it to The Divine. 

Thank goodness it was aligned and 3 days before her due date, my body began showing signs of early labor. After a full day and a half of early labor, Rob and I decided to go to the movies and have big sister to be, Annabella, stay at my folks. As I got up to go I felt a pop  & gush. Yep, my water broke.

LESSON #3: Csupport teamall in your Support Team

We made our way to the hospital and were greeted by our incredible doula, amazing nurses and the mid-wife team. And SCORE! We were lucky enough to get the one room with a birthing tub. This was my dream and vision–to labor in the tub. My sisters arrived shortly thereafter and my contractions started to get more intense. I had my incredible support team by my side, cheering me on and holding sacred space.

As I sat in the warm water, I put two songs on repeat; The Beatles “Let It Be” and Sarah McLachlan’s “Fumbling Towards Ecstasy.” I was able to do what I had visioned; relax during the contractions and simply notice the pain vs. panicking about the pain. I was able to be truly present and enjoy the pauses between the surges. I listened to meditations from my hypnobirthing class and from my spiritual coach, Elisabeth Manning. I felt the presence of my late grandmother and mother-in-law surrounding me and holding me during my contractions. Mother Mary even came for a visit…that’s another story! 

LESSON #4: Surrender and Get Out of the Way

Then a shift happened. I was no longer able to chose a perspective about the pain because it was all consuming. My entire body was engulfed in the pain. It was more intense than anything I’ve ever felt in my life. I had a moment of panic, which was quickly followed by an intense urge to push.

I screamed that I had to push and they got me on the table…just 40 minnewbornevieutes prior I was only at 6 centimeters (10 centimeters is when you are fully dilated and its time to push). And then it was as if my body hijacked my existence. I didn’t strain, I didn’t push, I held on and got out of the way. And my body did its magic. The midwife asked if I wanted to feel the baby’s head. I did so in disbelief. I made weird, guttural, primal noises. It was a full body experience. Until suddenly I felt relief. The pressure was gone and baby Evie was in my arms. It was all of 5 minutes and she had arrived.

LESSON #5: Receive and Celebrate the Miracle

I laid there with this slippery little being on my chest and I felt like my family was finally, truly complete. Even as I sit here now, sleep deprived and crabby, when I look at Evie and see Annabella and Evie together the sacredness of this miracle doesn’t escape me. Every day I take a few moments to tell both my girls how happy I am they are here, how blessed I feel to be their mom, how grateful I am that they chossis2e me.

Childbirth is a miraculous experience. The most painful, beautiful, sacred, raw, primal, wonderful, deep, intense experiences of my life.

Now upon reflection I keep wondering what my life would be like if I followed these lessons everyday:

Tell the truth & forgive to clear out the past, create a vision, call in support, surrender and get out of the way, and finally, receive and celebrate the miracle. Repeat.

No need to PUSH, no need to SUFFER, no need to STRESS. Even when pain arrives at my doorstep. Even when things don’t work out. I can continue to trust and surrender and receive the miracles. 

Where in your life could you apply this formula? Let me know!


With tired, starry eyes,



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