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The Wake-Up Call Show: So Tired of Being Disappointed in Myself

She asked me if I was ready to let go of feeling disappointed all the time. I looked at her, blinking with belief. I didn’t really understand what the heck she was talking about.

“Are you ready to stop believing you’re disappointing everyone, including yourself?”

Blink. Breath.

“I’m not really sure I feel that way.”

She smiled a knowing, compassionate, loving smile. “It seems to me you’ve put a lot of expectations on yourself about what being a mother looks like, about what being a wife looks like, about all the things you SHOULD be doing in your business as an author and coach, about how your body looks and feels and so much more. And I can see that you feel like you’re never measuring up and failing to meet your own expectations.”

Gulp.

I teach this sh*t. I write about self-love and self-compassion. I coach my clients all the time about this. Why had I missed this in myself?

Thank goodness I have my own mentors, coaches and intuitive like Brandy Gillmore to illuminate what’s going on inside of me both consciously and unconsciously, to shine the light on my own Inner Mean Girls so that I can continue to break free from their wrath.

I got curious and leaned in. I went deeper and discovered a pile of disappointment that I wasn’t even aware of.

I believe that keeping promises to ourselves is a building block of self-love and self-esteem. But so often we aren’t even consciously making those promises. We casually make commitments to ourself that are completely unrealistic. From the “I will exercise 5 times this week” or the “I promise to volunteer in my child’s class and be fully present for every recital” or the “I will have hot sex with my beloved 3 times per week.”

Then we become like an inner drill sergeant demanding that we PUSH our way to the finish lines, for races we didn’t even know we were in, and when we miss the mark we end up with a gnawing, low grade disappointment in ourselves and can’t really pinpoint why.

So the “I’m failing” story gathers momentum and becomes part of the fabric of who we think we are.

The Expectation Inventory

Once I realized this, Brandy asked me to complete what I like to call an Expectation Inventory. In this process you literally go through every area of your life and dig out any of those unrealistic expectations you are carrying around you.

Take out a journal and do this right now if you’re with me on this one.

What expectations have you been knowingly or unknowingly putting on yourself? Have you been setting yourself up for disappointment with unrealistic expectations? This is a toxic habit of the Inner Critic and Inner Mean Girl.

For each of the areas below consider “What are my expectations?” and “If I don’t do ________, I feel disappointed in myself.” and “How am I ‘shoulding’ all over myself in this area?” and “I put pressure on myself to _____”

  • Your health and body (you may want to break this down to exercise expectations, eating expectations etc.)
  • Motherhood/parenthood, if applicable. (How do you measure your success as a mom? How much time do you feel you SHOULD be spending with your kid(s) etc.)
  • Friendships (Look at your close friendships and the promises you make to yourself about your social life. Do you put pressure on yourself to have a lifestyle where you drop everything for your friends?)
  • Your romantic partner (make sure to look at your expectations about time together, your sex life, connection etc.)
  • Finances (What are your expectations for income, savings, debt?)
  • Career (Are you supposed to be “further along”? Do you put pressure on yourself and feel burnt out all the time?)
  • Spirituality (What do you feel you SHOULD be doing spiritually? Do you have unrealistic commitments about church time or meditation time?)
  • Creativity and Self-Expression (Are you SUPPOSED to be painting each day? Are you disappointed in yourself for not finishing that book or project?)
  • Home life (Do you feel disappointed about the way your house looks or the laundry that piles up?)
  • What else?

As you look at your own self-promises you may begin to realize, like I did, how insane it is. How IMPOSSIBLE it is to live up to these standards of excellence all the time.

Now let’s hit the RESET button!

Now it’s time for you to make conscious promises in each of these areas where you feel unsuccessful and need a reset. To really go within to your Inner Wisdom and ask her what the new promise can be. For years and years I’ve taught my clients about this and how you can create three levels.

Set your new commitments at the “I’m a success” level: this is the bare minimum you require of yourself so that you will feel like you’re a success and that you’re winning. This new promise must be totally doable! You refuse to be disappointed in yourself as long as you hit this mark. The attitude here is “I promise to do ________ at a minimum and I chose to feel good about myself and my life when I hit this mark.”

amy quote2For example, for me the I’m a success promise with my 7 year old, Annabella, is that I will ask her each day what her best and worst was and be fully present with her as she answers, allowing her to process anything negative and celebrate and give gratitude for the positives. I am meeting my motherhood vision as long as I do this.

I’ve had clients who have decided the I’m a success promise around exercise is that they commit to being active for 5 minutes each day.

Or maybe for finances, you reach the I’m a success expectation when you have $200 in your savings account.

Again, this must be DOABLE

Success Breeds Success

Brandy reminded me of the truth that success breeds success (and conversely failure breeds failure.) So as you begin to feel successful you will build on that winning momentum. All of a sudden your promise of writing your book for 10 minutes each day leads to hours of writing or your commitment to eating dessert only 4 times per week turns into releasing sugar because you feel so fabulous etc.

I’d love to hear how this exercise worked for you, dear one. Let me know below.

With unstoppable love,

P.S. I’d love to be with you in person for a weekend dedicated to listening to your Inner Wisdom. The Inner Mean Girl Summer camp retreat is just a few weeks away and I’d be honored to sit in circle with you and this beautiful circle of women.

Day One is all about connection and being witnessed, deepening the sisterhood and setting intentions. Day Two is about exposing your Inner Mean Girl and getting to know your Inner Wisdom on a deeper level. Day Three is all about creating new self-love promises from your Inner Wisdom.

The intimate circle is forming. Are you called to join us? All the information is here!

 

The Wake-Up Call Show: What If You Gave Yourself a Break This Mother’s Day?

Dearest One,

I’ve been holding mamas in my heart and feeling into how hard we can be on ourselves. So I went on a run in the woods yesterday and decided to make a short video for all the mamas out there to give you permission to give yourself a break (feel free to forward to the moms you love). You’ll love this 3 minute release ritual!

I am sans makeup and a teeny bit sweaty…that’s just how this Mama rolls. Keepin it REAL!

In my Mama Truth Circle group, with myself and my mom friends, I see the pattern over and over again: we beat ourselves up for all the ways we feel we are failing as moms. Whether it’s about breast feeding or bottle feeding, screen time or sleep challenges, an ADHD diagnosis or dating, we torture ourselves, feeling like we don’t parent right or aren’t good enough.

The truth is we’re all doing the best we can.

What if you gave yourself a break as a gift this Mother’s Day? How about going easy on yourself and appreciating all you do RIGHT?

​I give you permission, mama, to celebrate what a beautiful Mom you are, right here, right now.

Happy Mother’s Day,

Let me know below how you are giving yourself permission to lighten up this mother’s day!

The Wake-Up Call Show: Is your need to belong sabotaging you?

Dearest One,

The need to belong is one of our strongest, most compelling desires as human beings. In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, our need for belonging and love sits right in the center.

Our brains, hearts and souls need to feel a part of a community. Our brain fights for homeostasis, always desiring to keep us running on familiar neural pathways. When left on auto-pilot we replay the same thoughts, actions, beliefs and patterns. We cling to our comfort zones, even when they are excruciating. hug

The issues arises when the community and tribe we belong to is one that isn’t in true alignment with our soul.

Many people experience this in their families of origin and feel the need to escape their parents or caregivers and reach for something DIFFERENT or MORE. Other experience this in a marriage when one partner wants to set out on a new path, or go down a rabbit hole, and the other partner wants to stay put. The marriage often can’t survive.

I’m sure you’ve experienced this yourself when you feel like you’re on a growth edge, pulling away from the “pack,” under the surface there is fear that you’ll be ousted if you change too much.

Maybe for you it shows up as a desire to increase your financial prosperity, but your Inner Mean Girl (IMG) tells you that you’ll feel separate from your community, who is struggling to pay the bills.

Or your IMG tells you that if you get in better shape, your girlfriends/sister/mom/mate might feel scared or jealous of your new physique.

Or that if you succeed and take your visionary business to the next level, your colleagues will view you as “better than” and superior.

Or that if you deepen your spiritual practice too much, your friends will think you’ve gone “woo-woo.”

The message, consciously or subconsciously, becomes it is NOT SAFE for you to shine your light or change for the better. You will be exiled from the tribe. You will no longer belong. You’ll be seen as disloyal.

So your Inner Mean Girl and your basic human need to belong begins to sabotage you and you stay put. Stuck in a vicious cycle, terrified to change. Suddenly the health, wealth & joy you hunger for simply feels NOT WORTH THE COST.

Really look here and get curious. Look at your deepest, aligned desires for your life and notice if you truly have a community that is capable of supporting you to realize your dreams.

If your answer is no, then it’s time for you to connect with a community that is in alignment with where you WANT TO BE vs. WHERE YOU ARE. Seek out circle that will hold you in your greatness. For example:

Want more prosperity? Hang out with those that are abundant & are consciously reaching for more success by joining a mastermind.

Want more health? Socialize with health nuts by joining a gym, running group, or training for a marathon.

Want more self-love & happiness? Join a women’s circle of bright lights or go on a retreat with like-hearted souls.

Want to be a better mom? Join a mom’s group that is filled with soulful mamas who believe their children are their greatest teachers.

Doing this changed my life. When I moved back home to the SF Bay Area 8 years ago, I consciously decided to create and join communities where I could shine. I joined a moms group, created a powerful mastermind, hired an amazing business mentor & coach and made a decision to only have friendships that felt energetically delicious. Even when we vent or need space held for disappointments and the inevitable tragedies of life, I feel a beautiful energy exchange vs. feeling sucked dry to the bone.

Where in your life are you ready to create a new tribe? I’d love to witness your commitment below.

With love,

P.S. I have two circles and tribes forming right now that might be in amazing alignment for you on your journey:

If you’re a visionary entrepreneur in search of a tribe of inspiring visionaries ready to soar to greater heights, check out the Visionary Ignition Mastermind. Led by Lissa Rankin, Bruce Cryer and me, this circle is already filling with spiritually minded visionaries. We are doing our FINAL round of applications, due this Saturday, for this incredible group of heart-centered visionaries.

If you’re a woman longing to live an Inner Wisdom led life, filled with self-compassion and self-love, join me and Christine Arylo for Inner Mean Girl Summer Camp this June! You’ll become a member of a powerful circle of soulful, real, committed women.

 

The Wake-Up Call Show: A vulnerable post about my book launch


Dear
One,

It’s Amy Ahlers here with a vulnerable email about my book launch today.  Today, April 7th,  is the official release date for my new book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl:  7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself, which I co-authored with Christine Arylo.  Hooray!

My heart is full of delightful anticipation, love, butterflies and, most of all, a deep desire to be of service to women and girls around the world who are self-bullying. In my work as a coach over the past 15 years I’ve witnessed the epidemic of women, in particular, being incredibly hard on themselves, putting pressure on themselves, holding their own happiness hostage. 
And as a mother of two little girls, my passion and fire for this message getting out in the world is unstoppable. Here I am with my girls this morning after my run feeling the book love with my author copies!
 
What you may not know about launching a book is that for me, and I think for many authors, it is an incredibly vulnerable experience.  There is nothing else I’ve done that has bigger measuring sticks…and those measuring sticks are incredibly public; from best seller lists to reader reviews to professional reviews of the book.  It can make me feel raw and vulnerable, like I’m a little girl again hoping that people will show up for my birthday party, and fearing that no one will.
 
My Inner Mean Girl has fertile ground to beat me up and bully me, which of course is exactly what I write about in the book! I teach what I most need to learn.
 
The truth is it’s not about your Inner Mean Girl never showing up, it’s not about being strong and confident 100% of the time.  Instead it is about knowing what to do when your Inner Mean Girl shows up and, most importantly, not letting your Inner Mean Girl make your decisions.
 
So, here’s a sampling of what my Inner Mean Girl has been bullying me with:
 
“Nobody’s going to buy this book and nobody is going to show up at your launch parties…you’re such a loser!”
 
“It’s all about the best seller list, if you don’t hit the best seller list then you completely failed.”
 
“Nobody’s going to actually read the book even if they buy it, it’s just going to sit up on their shelf, collecting dust and the work won’t really have the impact that you want.”
 
“You failed, you failed, you failed – you’re failing, you’re failing, you’re failing.”
 
Ouch! My inner mean girl, Negative Nelly, can be really brutal. 
 
But when I tap into my Inner Wisdom, plugging into the loving, compassionate truth inside me, here’s what I know:  
 
“The lists and all the measuring sticks have nothing to do with this book. The heart and soul of this book is about helping women that are hard on themselves and being of service to the world this way.”
 
“This is part of your life’s calling Amy and all is well.  If you’ve just touched one woman’s life and helped her through this book, then you are a success!”
 
“Stay attuned to your heart, leading with your soul and releasing any attachments and being absolutely grateful.”
 
“Your tribe is gathering. All is well.”
 
Doesn’t that feel better!? Thank goodness!
 
So, now I turn to you my dear one, how have you been bullying yourself?  Is there a place in your life that you’ve been beating yourself up, putting pressure on yourself to do, be and have it all?  Is there a way that you are using measuring sticks as punishment? If so, then this book is for you!
 
Those of you who already bought the book (or books!), I thank you from the bottom of my heart.  I am deeply honored that you invested in the book and, more importantly, invested in yourself.  The book will share with you our step by step process for transforming your inner critic and empowering your inner wisdom. It’s some of the best work I’ve ever done in my life. 
 
If you have yet to do so, I would be honored to have you pick up a copy of the book today.  You can go to www.innermeangirlbook.com and order it there. When you do, we have some juicy, delicious bonus gifts for you!
 
More than anything, you’re officially invited to become part of the movement  for us to stop beating ourselves up and start loving ourselves instead. We can be so compassionate with other people in our lives, but when it comes to how we treat ourselves, we can be pretty brutal and that is what the message of this book is all about.
 
Thank you so much for letting me share the book and celebrate the launch of it today and for reading this email.

May you feel the truth of your Inner Wisdom today and every day.

With love,

P.S. If you happen to live in northern or southern California, Christine and I are also throwing two wonderful book launch parties and jumpstart workshops and we’d love to see you there. 
 
This weekend, on April 11th, we will be in the Sf Bay area raising money for Girls, Inc. and jumpstarting the inner mean girl process for so many.  You can go here to buy your ticket, which includes a copy of the book. 
 
Or if you’re in the Los Angeles area, we have a workshop coming up on April 25th, where we will jumpstart your inner mean girl transformation and fill you up with so much love and remind you that you are not alone. 
 
I really hope to see you at one of the events and thank you for helping me and my mission to stop women from being so hard on themselves and gift them with self love and self compassion tools.  **Smooch!**

>> For SF Bay Area event details go here 

 

The Wake-Up Call Show: When Positivity becomes an Addiction

Dear Sunshine,

Are you addicted to optimism?

Do you have no patience for pessimism?

When something challenging, dark or disappointing shows up on your doorstep, do you hide, numb out or freeze up?

You may just have an addiction to positivity. This is a sneaky trick of a very sly Inner Mean Girl archetype: The Overly Optimistic Partying Cheerleader.

And, yes, you guessed it I have one too! I made a short video for you from my front porch swing about this tricky Inner Mean Girl.

In the video I share about my own Overly Optimistic Partying Cheerleader and the cost of having her on the scene. I love being optimistic, but I hate being cheered right of a CLIFF!

Maybe you don’t have this particular Inner Mean Girl, maybe instead you have an Achievement Junkie or Worrywart or Comparison Queen.

Want to know for sure? Check out the free Inner Mean Girl quiz and discover what type of inner critic you have based on the 13 Inner Mean Girl Archetypes.

I’m sending you buckets of sunshine and the capacity to BE WITH the darkness too.

With love,

P.S. If you’re in the SF Bay Area or Los Angeles Area, I’d love to invite you to the upcoming Reform Your Inner Mean Girl Book Launch Parties & Jumpstart Workshops. I can’t wait to give you a hug!

 Leave a comment below about your Overly Optimistic Partying Cheerleader!

The Wake-Up Call Show: My Crazy Inner Good Girl

Dear One,

It’s time I spilled the beans on my Inner Good Girl that shows up and wrecks havoc on my life.

Perhaps you can relate?

You know that part of you that has you saying YES, when you really mean NO. She has you PEOPLE PLEASING like nobody’s business. The part of you who is on a mission to BE LIKED no matter what the cost.

Here’s just one of the “cra-cra” ways my Inner Good Girl loves to show up.

Picture this: I’m on a run, getting my groove on. Rocking out to my tunes as I circle the lake. I’m sweating, feeling the high, when I begin to catch up to another runner.

It looks like I’m going at a bit of a faster pace than this stranger on the path. She’s doing her thing, I’m doing mine. I’m about to pass her. It’s all good. Personal best right?

Then my Inner Good Girl kicks in. This is what goes on in my head:

“Ummmm…excuse me, Amy? You’re about to pass another jogger. You can’t do that! What if it makes her feel bad?

You should really slow down. Don’t show her up! She might feel bad about herself. Her Inner Comparison Queen (more on her to come…especially when I get passed by a faster runner!) might start beating her up. SLOW DOWN!”

Do you see the insanity here? What the what?!

I have NO IDEA about this other person’s experience. And yet my Inner Mean Girl, showing up as the Good Girl Archetype, has kicked in, trying to hijack my run.

Every time this happens I have to talk my Inner Mean Girl down off the ledge. Remind her that it’s OK for me to run faster. And that it’s OK for me to SHINE. That I’m safe. That all is well.

Can you relate? Let me know your Good Girl experience here (below).

I’m so grateful that I’ve reformed my Inner Good Girl. That I know how to deal with her and her insanity. Don’t get me wrong. She still shows up. But now I’ve got her number. I can feel her coming from a mile away.

My Inner Good Girl doesn’t get to make my choices anymore.

That’s the beauty of reforming your Inner Mean Girl.

If you have a Inner Good Girl I challenge you to say NO today. I challenge you to shine, trusting that you’ll inspire the people around you.

Let me know how it goes (below), OK?

Off to run as fast as I can,

P.S. The Good Girl is one of the 13 different types of Inner Mean Girl Archetypes that Christine Arylo and I have uncovered in our work together. Want to find out what type of Inner Mean Girl you have?

GO HERE to take the free Inner Mean Girl Quiz and discover what type of Inner Critic you have (a Good Girl, Comparison Queen, Achievement Junkie, Worry Wart or ??)

The Wake-Up Call Show: Uptown Funky Walk? (Video with my family!)

Dearest One,

The other day we were having a dance break watching the hit song Uptown Funk by Bruno Mars. Annabella, my 7 1/2 year old, was grooving and singing at the top of her lungs. The break it down section comes on with the words “Uptown funk you up, uptown funk you up” and I hear Annabella jamming saying, “Uptown funky walk, uptown funky walk.” Clearly better lyrics.

So today I was guided to created an uptown funky walk dance break video just for you with my entire family. Yes you’ll even see Evie Rose cutting a rug! We hope it makes you smile laugh and brings some glee into your heart. Check out our 2 minute uptown funky walk video here with my entire family!

We’re celebrating so much over here at The Ahlers household!evie piano

If you can believe it, my sweet little baby girl Evie Rose is turning 1 tomorrow! It feels unimaginable to me.

It seems like just yesterday I was holding her in my arms for the very first time after a quick and natural birth, one of the greatest joys and challenges of my life (you can read more about her birth story here).

Evie is our long-awaited second baby that we dreamed of for over two years. She is such a light in my life and in our family. She’s filled with so much joy and laughter and giggles and curiosity and absolute mischievousness.

AND we’re getting ready to celebrate my new baby that is due…

RYIMG coverMy book baby! Yes that’s right my next book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself, comes out from Simon and Schuster’s Beyond Words in print on April 7th. Wowzie!

I co-authored this book with my phenomenal partner at Inner Mean Girl Reform School, Christine Arylo and it’s based on our Internationally celebrated program. I cannot wait to share this book baby with you.

Be on the lookout for all sorts of invitations and inspiring goodies, including the invitation to our launch parties & Inner Mean Girl transformation workshops on April 11th in the San Francisco Bay Area and Los Angeles launch party on April 25th. Please mark your calendar now.

Whew-what an amazing adventure!

I hope you’ll take a moment today and celebrate the goodness in your life.
Sending you much love and an uptown funky walk,

P. S. Why not do a dance break at some point today and allow every cell of your being to fill up with energy and enthusiasm and passion for life? YES!

P.P.S. If you need to take a moment to breathe, check out my dear friend, Steve Sisgold with his new Mindful Moment video featuring 2 minutes of Conscious Breathing. YUM!

The Wake-Up Call Show: Resentment & Self-Care

Dearest One,

I see you over there with your mile long “to-do” list. With the words swirling in your head; “There. Isn’t. Enough. Time.”

Feeling exhausted and depleted. Aching for a break and some time for YOU.

I feel you because I AM you. (And I’ve coached women like you for over 15 years.)

I felt it creeping back in this past week. That feeling of being at the end of my rope. My husband was gone recording an album for 6 days and I was left home with my two girls for the first time since Evie was born. When I realized that Annabella had a school break starting last Friday as well, I honestly nearly cried. I could feel the stress mounting.

I created amazing support for the daytime, but it’s the dinner time, bedtime routine that kills me. I’m tired, the girls are tired, and I couldn’t seem to get it together. And I could feel the resentment starting to make her way through my front door.

What’s a gal to do?

Stop. Drop. Do a radical act of self-care.

Consciously do an action and name it as an act of self-love. Call a friend. Take a bath. Go on a run. Call a sitter and get to the movies. Find that thing that feels indulgent and nurturing for you. Then declare it self-love.

A bath is just a bath, unless you say to yourself, I’m easing my way into this warm bubble bath with a candle lit because I love myself.

Exercise is just exercise, unless you say to yourself, I love myself enough to run up this staircase to my favorite song so I can celebrate how strong my body is.

Calling a friend can be just mindless chatter, unless you say to yourself (and your friend), “SOS. I’m reaching out for some love and support as an act of self-care and self-love!”

This lets your entire being KNOW that you are creating space for you. It allows the resentment to fade and the love to expand.

Do whatever it takes to ensure resentment doesn’t become your new best friend.

Because living with resentment is like eating poison everyday for breakfast. It kills your joy, your health and your relationships.

As we teach in Inner Mean Girl Reform School, it’s not about finding time, it’s about creating space. Space for you and your self care.

So, darling one, what can you do today to honor yourself? Let me know here (below).
Off for a self-love hike!



P.S. As an act of self-love, join me and my best friend, Sam Bennett, for our call today:

sam and amy

The Myth of Overwhelm
(and what’s REALLY holding you back)
TODAY, Wednesday, February 18th at 3pm PT/6pm ET/11pm GMT

If you can’t make it live, no worries, love! Just register here and we’ll shoot you the recording.

We’re not enrolling into a program or anything on this call. It’s a no strings attached, nothing to buy here, sorta thing. Just two ladies doing some good old fashioned truth telling and inner critic slaying. You can post your questions on the page too.

Talk to you later today!

 

The Wake-Up Call Show: The Universe Rises Up to Meet You (Video)

Dearest One,

On my last Wake-Up Call Wednesday I talked about how I created a new weekly flow, a new schedule and rhythm, for the new year. New year = new support!

I was sooo excited about having a new schedule that honors my Sacred Flow stand for 2015. One that gives me space for my girls, for my work, for my marriage and for me. I was tingling with enthusiasm and delightful anticipation.

And then our house got overtaken by a stomach bug (cue dramatic music!). So my first full week felt a little less sacred and a little more crazy. I made a short video for you about it when I was on a run. You can watch it below.

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It seems to often play out this way. We create a stand or intention and The Universe responds by rising up to meet you and put your Mantra to the test. The perfect playing field appears.

Click above to watch the video and let me know what you think!

Ready for the sacred flow,

 P.S. **SAVE THE DATE**RYIMG cover

ON APRIL 11th WE’RE THROWING A BOOK LAUNCH & INNER MEAN GIRL
TRANSFORMATION PARTY AND YOU’RE INVITED!

Yippeee!!!

I am getting so pumped up for the release of my new book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl; 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself. I co-wrote this transformational book baby with my partner, Christine Arylo, and we’re whipping up some ahhh-mazing goodies and gifts for you to celebrate the book launch.

Stay tuned for more details, but for now please mark the afternoon of April 11th on your calendar for the book launch party. You can be with us in person in the Bay Area or tune in via live stream from anywhere in the world. It is going to be so much fun!!

The Wake-Up Call Show: How You Spend Your DAYS is How You Spend Your LIFE

Dearest One,
“How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.”
~Annie Dillard

It’s so true, isn’t it? The moments turn into days, the days into weeks, the weeks into months, the months into years. So it goes.

Our daily life is our real life. Finding the everyday sacred is the key to creating a life you love.

Sacred Flow PicAnd yet so often we feel inspired to make big changes in our minds and hearts and never fully distill it down to the daily actions and commitments that will create the transformation. And then we wonder why the change doesn’t stick or another year flies by and we feel like WE MISSED IT.

I know the truth of this. So I’ve been investigating and getting really CURIOUS and REAL about how to create a daily and weekly flow to honor my 2015 Stand and Power Mantra; Sacred Flow. To bring my stand into my daily life to make the change real.

I’m hungry for a new rhythm that honors my time with my girls, my time with my husband, my time with my friends, my time with myself and my time for my Great Work in the world.

Sometimes I feel like a juggler gone mad instead of the present and tuned in woman I long to be.

Will you take some time to work ON your life, instead of IN your life?

I just co-created a weekly flow with my husband and I’m soooo excited about it. Here’s what my new flow includes:

  • daily walks to school as a family and then coffee with Evie and Rob (LOVE starting my day this way)
  • runs/hikes twice per week (this is such a sacred thing for me that was falling off my plate since Evie arrived-time to bring it back for my mental and physical well being)
  • a four hour Sacred Space chunk to allow for flow and spontaneity (THIS IS LIFE CHANGING!)Evie on beach3
  • 5 Rhythms weekly dance class (for years I did this religiously when I lived in LA. My Inner Wisdom guided me to bring this practice back into my life this year.)
  • Twice a month date nights with my beloved (YES!!)
  • Mondays are now my Mama Day where I spend quality time with Evie, pick up Annabella and then do a two girl hang (no work except for my weekly post on my Mama Truth Circle
  • Picking up Annabella from school and getting solo time with her once/week (SO important to weave in solo time with her!)
  • New Mommy and Me class with Evie (Yum!)
  • Solid times dedicated to my work (So wonderful for my assistants to know when they should schedule appointments in!)

The truth is that if it isn’t in my calendar these days, it ain’t happening! If I don’t put in time for myself and time for exercise and sacred time with my girls, it just doesn’t happen. And those things are the most important thing to me.

What Christine Arylo and I teach at Inner Mean Girl Reform School is that if you wait until you find the time, you’ll fail every time. You must create space!

I cannot tell you the JOY my new schedule brings me.

It also means we need to hire help twice per week. We need a “housewife” to help with Evie, do laundry and dishes, run errands and more! I absolutely trust that the money flow will support me in my new schedule.

What is your daily and weekly flow and how can you consciously create your schedule so it feels like a full body YES?  GO BELOW to let me know your sacred daily and weekly flow. Work ON your life so when you’re IN your life, it feels yummy.

You deserve to love your DAYS and, therefore, your LIFE!

With unstoppable enthusiasm,

P.S. I hope you saw my email yesterday. TODAY is the last day to enroll in the special Inner Mean Girl Reform School New Year Transformation! Christine Arylo and I are launching our flagship program with live calls tonight at 5pm PT/8pm ET for the first time in over 2 years!

 

I highly encourage you to join us for this powerful, proven 10 step process so you can empower your Inner Wisdom and reform your Inner Mean Girl.  Inner Mean Girl Reform School is one of my all time favorite creations. Super duper potent and transformative (and totally risk free)!

GO HERE to see our invitation and enroll.